The Concept (Chapter One)
A Play Party for Those Who Enjoy Being Social & Sexual, European-Style
This concept is relevant for consideration by everyone in South Florida, 21+ with a hedonistic streak…
Instructions:
Welcome! Well, you’d think that we’d begin with “Welcome!”, instead of “Instructions”, because that’s a lot more welcoming than beginning with instructions, isn’t it?
After all, this entire experience is intended to be friendly and laid back, a freeing cocoon where you can feel comfortable in lowering your inhibitions, exploring your desires, and living out your ultimate fantasies, in a safe and caring environment.
However, this is not possible without an investment from you.
An investment in thoroughly understanding this Concept, and deciding if it is you. This includes reading all six chapters of this Concept, and hopefully also the short Perspectives articles, for additional color. This Chapter One is long, the others are much shorter. But you need to read them, absorb them, see if you buy into them. Are they you?
Then there’s an investment in creating, cherishing, and growing this sexual and sensual cocoon… and it requires the commitment of a mature attitude towards honoring and respecting the space, and those within it.
So yes, unfortunately we’re beginning with instructions. We’re sticklers about finding those truly committed to the concepts within, because the payoff comes freely, organically, once the space exists the way it’s intended.
So please read on. This is Chapter One of The Concept. At the bottom of each chapter there’s a link to the next chapter, or you can always reach the six Concept articles here and on the top menu. You can then proceed to the short Perspectives articles for additional reinforcement, more insight into the intentionality of this sensual space.
Once you’ve read everything, if you see yourself here, no explanation is necessary. If you don’t, no explanation will suffice, but thank you for reading!
Then, if you think this is you, you can hit the “Subscribe” button at the bottom of almost any page. We’ll eventually catch up to posting our Candidate Questionnaire page, where we will begin to vet everyone.
So, welcome! Let’s begin…
Can We Create This in South Florida?
The experience I’m about to describe is rather specific. I’m very particular in describing this experience, because to me and a few friends in South Florida, it is the ideal sensual cocoon- and we want to make it happen here.
In my case? I’m a hedonist, and a social person, but I call myself an extrovert introvert- I enjoy being social in quieter settings. Hence the Sensual Speakeasy, and its cocktail lounge vibe.
If you enjoy the “usual” experience of lifestyle clubs and parties with loud music where you have to scream to be heard, while getting inebriated on your way to the back rooms… I celebrate you, go for it! But that’s not me, or my friends.
Also, our concept is so much more than just a cocktail lounge or social speakeasy vibe… it’s honoring European attitudes, a European feel.
As far as this European feel… First, a disclaimer. Nothing is 100%. Everything is directional. We’re going to boldly rely on our own definitions of our European Ideals here, for play parties.
Again, this is only directional towards European culture and attitudes, and not true for every hedonistic person in Europe. But yes, things are… different there. And yummy.
So what are our European Ideals, as we’ve defined them?
There would be:
A steadfast requirement of respect and proper consent- these are the bedrocks of this concept, and its events. Yes, that was a short sentence, but human respect and the rules of consent are everything. Without these, there is nothing.
No raucous inebriation, no deafening dance music that you need to scream over, no standoffish cliques. Events would be private, highly social, and low-key.
No people who believe they belong solely to the Beautiful People (and only accept others who belong.)
No people who think those of age 50+ are unworthy of participation in sexual hedonism- forgetting that they will eventually, or sooner, reach that age bracket themselves.
The quiet comfort of making connections, even if brief, and being interested in the person(s) they’re about to share intimacies with… not to mention feeling safe and comfortable with the group as a whole.
A safe, accepting, non-judgmental environment, where attendees are educated, real, sincere, and trustworthy. Responsible, yet uninhibited. Absolutely discreet. Safe, in all ways. Kink-friendly. People who are vetted and serious about everything listed in these paragraphs.
A place where one is secure enough in their participation to not require excess (or any) liquid courage to proceed, as full consent can only be given from a state of sobriety.
A space where age (legal, of course), magazine-cover physical looks, financial or social status, etc. are not part of the formula, and not why one will receive the invitation. As just one example, our underpaid teachers are some of the most interesting (and sexy) people we know.
A place where one is invited because they are a sincere referral, a responsible, educated person looking for this kind of environment, mature and serious enough to abide by the rules, to not spoil this “I can’t believe it’s real!” fun, safe, and trusting cocoon.
A place welcoming and supporting of beginners, the curious, and the experienced… recognizing that mindset is what’s important.
A place where it is all Ladies, Gentleman, and Other-Gendered Serious Humans (capitalization intended), where consent and mutual respect are number one, where the rules are strict, but never have to be actually enforced, because we are Ladies, Gentlemen, and Other-Gendered Humans of a serious disposition, after all.
A place where it is all about the Ladies, as it should be.
And, 100% central to the experience:
We would seek to have all types of people at any one party and across these parties, from age 20-somethings that could be bikini or male swimsuit models, to 50+ mom and dad bods, and everything in between, including age 20-something mom and dad bods and 50+ swimsuit model bodies.
Under our European Ideals, sexual activities and attraction are not bounded by physical beauty, age, body type, origin, or sexual orientation. People seek variety, new experiences. People are attracted to people. People of different types bond over interests, stories, a laugh, curiosity, shared travel experiences, love for a video game or a hobby, something nerdy, anything, even just a je ne sais quoi sexual spark or attraction.
When we choose one or more partners, we are intimate together because of who we are with each other, what clicks in our sexual minds and souls, or even just a mutual comfort or curiosity, wanting to share an experience together. The brain is a heck of a sex organ.
And how do we get to know each other? Through ample pre-play social time, sharing discussions, perhaps a few activities, and more…
In a nutshell, duplicating this European-style experience requires those who possess all of these interests and qualities:
Serious interest or experience in sexual hedonism, where a quiet conversational lounge vibe is the feel, as opposed to a loud dance party. This allows for meaningful social time to make connections.
Possession of unbridled respect and consideration for others, including steadfast discretion and privacy.
Being non-judgmental about anyone’s fantasies, whether imagined or lived out within playtime. Judging people only by who they are as a person, not their orientation or kinks.
People who find sexiness in who people are, not because they could be on a magazine cover.
Likewise, people who do not dismiss someone of good looks or beauty as unapproachable, or solely as someone who only has physical attributes to offer as a human being. (Yes, I will tell you this can be a thing. I’ve heard the tales.)
Younger people who appreciate the sexiness, life experience and fun tangibles of those older than them.
Older people who do not dismiss younger people as inexperienced, or not worth knowing or learning from.
Educated people who enjoy interesting people for who they are, not for their social status or disposable incomes.
People who want to be a responsible part of an environment in which everyone feels safe, accepted, and centered enough so as to feel natural and free in being uninhibited.
Maturity in behavior. Serious and responsible people, who want to create this utopian sexual cocoon, cherish it and honor it, including introducing new friends meeting all these same criteria, so as to keep the space going and growing.
Needless to say, your sexual health, and respecting the health of those around you, should be of paramount importance to you. Full STI testing every 10–12 weeks and condom use are great habits to have.
IMPORTANT NOTE: What’s also amazing about the European Ideals, is that there is a much different mindset concerning solo males. There is no big stigma or prejudice against them, as they are assumed to be gentlemen (until they prove they are not, rarely) so it is very freeing over there as compared to “typical” U.S. events.
“Being a creep”, violations of respect for others, or violating the gentleman code really do not happen there, as gentlemen know how to be gentlemen. You don’t need lots of rules and restraints on solo gentlemen, because they know how to behave. I wish this environment could exist more often, but I guess there are so many men who have no clue, here in the U.S… but I take pride in being a gentleman, and if you are a solo male, or even the male half of a couple, you must also.
There is an interesting offshoot of this phenomenon- because of this “good behavior” factor there are more solo females than you might imagine. There is an inside joke that all the insatiable ladies love the solo gentlemen in attendance because “men need time to reset, after all, and this way the ladies could keep going!”
There is an additional benefit in establishing a space where one feels safe, centered, and respected by everyone there… by not having certain worries or distractions, one can tend to be as uninhibited as one wants, resulting in mind-blowing experiences!
One last question… Does the above describe you?
Questions, comments? Comment below, or contact us privately!
… and if you’re ready, here’s Chapter 2 of The Concept